Mama, what tools are in your toolbox?

Mama, what tools are in your toolbox?

Heart pounding, hands sweaty, jaw all kicked in whenever I would recall a specific memory of a traumatic event with my child. 

And that memory would sometimes be triggered at the most inopportune moments.  

Gaining freedom from this intense reaction changed my path.  

It was the defining moment of realizing I needed to bring this work to others and share one of the best tools I have in my toolbox.

Our memories are more than just images, they are made up of thoughts, feelings, and body (and other) sensations.  

We hold onto them for the purpose of learning and survival. Yet, we don’t need them to have a stronghold on us. 

Our sense of smell is the only inroad to the limbic system where we store our memories and we are able to tap into it with the support of essential oils and reconsolidate the way the memories are stored. 

Gently going through the steps of an Aroma Freedom  session gifted me the ability to now recall the memory without the negativity or miserable physical responses.  

It's opened up the doors for me to create new pathways for more positive perspectives and directions related to the memory.  

How could I not learn how to help others be free!? 

And support them in creating goals and intentions for their future! 

60 seconds...the most dynamic simple process can be done in 60 seconds to flip the switch on that part of your brain that sends you into “fight, flight or freeze” 

How helpful would that be for you or your teens!!? 

Mamas, we need tools in our tool boxes!  

Tools we can use on the spot and tools to help clear past messes and pave the way for future possibilities. 

Let’s chat about how I can support you.  I offer free 15 minute consults so you can ask all the questions! 

Sign up HERE to get all the info and take the opportunity to schedule time with me!

Also, join my resilientAf midlife mamas Facebook group for more mama tools and occasional free group Aroma Freedom sessions. 

Keep Your Window of Resilience Wide Open...For Optimal Energy & Peace!

Keep Your Window of Resilience Wide Open...For Optimal Energy & Peace!
AHA moment!  Right there on the floor, sitting in a circle with my loving meditation group.  On a large piece of paper on the floor was a rudimentary drawing of Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance.  I remember leaving that afternoon with a clarity I hadn't had in years! 

Visualize the window.  Seriously, close your eyes and picture a window that can open from the bottom or the top. 

I see this window as my window of resilience and it is part of the equation of how I became resilientAF in spite of some of the greatest most heartbreaking challenges.  

Check out this video explaining about the window and how I keep mine open! 

Mental Health Over Academics...Understanding Why

I'm going to let the video do it's thing this grab a cup of something yummy and hit play.  Then share it with someone else 💜

2021...Go Deep To Reclaim Passion, Creativity and YOU!

2021...Go Deep To Reclaim Passion, Creativity and YOU!
Deep into your own stuff!

We spend so much time focusing on our teens....
their physical and mental health, their academics, their special needs, their peers, etc. 
We mamas get lost.  

When we get lost, we lose our passion.  We lose our creativity. 

For me, I lost my focus in my career.  I worked as a preschool speech-language pathologist and lost the ability to focus on the kids and families I worked with.  I was so immersed in my kid and the cycle of chaos/crisis we were in. 

Years later, I am recreating myself.  
Rediscovering my passions.  

Digging deep into the emotions and trauma from my childhood, my parenting, all my stuff and letting it go....oh such sweet freedom.  

Freedom that now embraces creativity again! 

And the best part is that all the work I've done on myself has allowed shifts to occur in my relationships.  

peaceful mama=peaceful kids

Bonus is being reconnected to loving myself, accepting myself fully, and embracing my radical self care.

Modeling all of this  for our kids....priceless.  

2018-2020 had the potential to pull me down into all the darkest places...I squirmed everyday in so many ways to find the light within me.  Releasing negativity and learning to set intentions...  Aroma Freedom was the spark that re-ignited the inferno that is blazing now! 

I've been emerging into the woman that I myself desperately needed over the past 12 or so years.  
Ya know, the one that's been through similar storms and weathered them without completely losing herself. 


The gift of 2020 for me was time for learning.  
I took a deep dive  into learning the skills I could use to help others dig deep, heal, and unlock their highest potential.  

SO,  now it's my turn to reach my arm into the storm and lock hands with the mamas that are being pulled down and losing themselves

I got you mama....I see you....
you are resilientAF
you ARE doing this AND you don't have to do it alone! 

If this resonates with you...or someone you love (share!) than I invite you to join my Facebook group: resilientAFmidlife mamas 
(home of the 90 Days to Reclaiming Your Creativity and other awesome free stuff!) 



2021!! Anyone else all in?

2021!! Anyone else all in?

New Years Eve 1998-1999 was a highlight for me- Phish show with friends in the Ticketmaster box at Madison Square Garden


NYE 1999-2000 with an almost 2 month old...nursing and diapers and desperately trying to stay up until midnight to see if the world would blow up (Y2K)


I've had many joyful NYE's since (and prior), but I find myself reflecting on these for three reasons this afternoon.


1.  Having children changes EVERYTHING about sleep! For me, it sucked the joy out of staying up until midnight!! Joy is being tucked in by 10 🤣


2.  Seriously, Y2K was 20 years ago? Here we are 20 years later and more worried about the state of the world than I ever imagined we could be. We have SO much work to do!


3.  I am more excited about this NYE than ever-not that I have party plans or particularly want to stay up until midnight.  It's that I've got 2021 plans that I've mapped out and I am excited to run with!! I haven't felt this clear about my goals and ever.


"That time then and once again, I'm bouncing round the room"

(in my head though-cuz my office is too small!)!!!

**side note: they didn't play that 12/31/98 AND here is the recording of the entire 3 set show for your convenience and enjoyment!


First time in my life I’m not just gliding into the New Year with thoughts or dreams about the things I would love to see happen.  


This year is profoundly different!  


  • Dreams that I can actually visualize and map out how to make them happen. 

  • Goals written down with action steps and time frames,  

  • Accountability set up to support my efforts.  

  • Mindset work to motivate me and maintain my momentum. 

  • Badass communities of other goal getters!  (yes, more than one!)


2021 I’m coming for you!! 

Anyone else all in? 

Come hang with a bunch of resilientAF midlife mamas!! 
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