Single Biggest Reason Why Most People Don’t Understand Executive Function

Single Biggest Reason Why Most People Don’t Understand Executive Function
Single Biggest Reason Why Most People Don’t Understand Executive Function:

Google Gobbledeegoop

I hear from many parents that they’ve been told their child has executive functioning challenges, but they aren’t really clear what that really means.  

Perhaps they have had some sort of assessment done, been delivered test results, and sometimes even a diagnosis.  

Lots of information is provided at once, too much to digest and they haven’t even begun to formulate the questions. 

The term “Executive Function” is typically shared in the context of test results and sometimes the specific areas are broken down and shared as strengths or weaknesses.

More often than not parents walk away from the meetings with papers in hand, a bunch of standardized test scores, and questions they aren’t yet sure how to formulate.   

Sometimes the term has been used by an educator in a meeting, not necessarily linked to testing.  

Executive functioning is not something that requires diagnosing.  It can be impaired for a variety of reasons.  For example, under times of high stress or when depressed, temporary challenges can occur. 

Either way,  parents will typically follow up with some time on Google seeking answers.  'Cause that's where we all usually end up! 

Looking up Executive Function in cyberspace is going to bring up a bunch of scientific jargon and confusing definitions.  

Executive Function is broken down in different ways depending on who you ask.  

The bottom line…Executive Function is the ability to get shit done!  

It is the brain functioning required to execute complex tasks such as (though not limited to!): 
  • planning
  • organizing
  • time management
  • initiation
  • emotional regulation
  • focus
  • persistence
The Executive Function "umbrella" is quite large and one doesn’t necessarily struggle with all of that falls under it! 

Age and development are key factors.  For example, it is not uncommon for a two-year-old to be highly impulsive, but by the time the child is 10, we expect to see them have fewer impulsive behaviors. When that child is a teen and is still impulsive it presents a challenge as it may manifest in risk-taking that can be troublesome.

Simplified further...all of our brains engage in Executive Functions and 

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Waiting for the other shoe to drop...

Waiting for the other shoe to drop...


Take a deep breath 

Pit of doom in my belly.  

Shoulders fold inward as my neck and back roll down into hunched over mode.  

It all happens in a matter of seconds….and feels like time is standing still.

Every cell in my body deflates, my breath is shallow, and my head pounds as I clench my jaw. 

In slow motion I turn the phone to look at the number. 

2 options: 

  • Huge sigh of relief… 

  • Panic sets further in as I answer…

I spent years waiting, day in and day out, for “the other shoe to drop.” *

*I just learned where this expression comes from!  It dates back to the late 19th and early 20th century in New York City.  In the tenement buildings the floors were so thin and you could hear your upstairs neighbor take off their shoe and drop it. Then repeat the action.  It became shorthand for waiting for something that was inevitably coming. 

Pains me to write this and recall the fear and constriction in my body even though it’s been over a year since I’ve responded to my phone ringing in this way. 

Grateful to have cultivated the resilience and mindset to shift myself from this detrimental pattern. 

For me, back then, it was the school calling or the police. Though it was really the constant state of fear I was stuck in that was the challenge.  

I was freed up by releasing the paralysis of fear, opening my window of tolerance, and accepting that stressful calls come, AND that I don’t need to be suffocated by the grip of waiting for them to arrive. 

I hear from many of you that are exhausted...caught up in this cycle of fear.  

Mama, you are the only one that can make it stop.  

You and your reaction/response are the only control you have.  

You can break the pattern. 

Reach out for a free 15 minute coaching call.  I'm here to help you. 

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Mama, what tools are in your toolbox?

Mama, what tools are in your toolbox?

Heart pounding, hands sweaty, jaw all kicked in whenever I would recall a specific memory of a traumatic event with my child. 

And that memory would sometimes be triggered at the most inopportune moments.  

Gaining freedom from this intense reaction changed my path.  

It was the defining moment of realizing I needed to bring this work to others and share one of the best tools I have in my toolbox.

Our memories are more than just images, they are made up of thoughts, feelings, and body (and other) sensations.  

We hold onto them for the purpose of learning and survival. Yet, we don’t need them to have a stronghold on us. 

Our sense of smell is the only inroad to the limbic system where we store our memories and we are able to tap into it with the support of essential oils and reconsolidate the way the memories are stored. 

Gently going through the steps of an Aroma Freedom  session gifted me the ability to now recall the memory without the negativity or miserable physical responses.  

It's opened up the doors for me to create new pathways for more positive perspectives and directions related to the memory.  

How could I not learn how to help others be free!? 

And support them in creating goals and intentions for their future! 

60 seconds...the most dynamic simple process can be done in 60 seconds to flip the switch on that part of your brain that sends you into “fight, flight or freeze” 

How helpful would that be for you or your teens!!? 

Mamas, we need tools in our tool boxes!  

Tools we can use on the spot and tools to help clear past messes and pave the way for future possibilities. 

Let’s chat about how I can support you.  I offer free 15 minute consults so you can ask all the questions! 

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Mental Health Over Academics...Understanding Why

I'm going to let the video do it's thing this grab a cup of something yummy and hit play.  Then share it with someone else 💜

2021!! Anyone else all in?

2021!! Anyone else all in?

New Years Eve 1998-1999 was a highlight for me- Phish show with friends in the Ticketmaster box at Madison Square Garden


NYE 1999-2000 with an almost 2 month old...nursing and diapers and desperately trying to stay up until midnight to see if the world would blow up (Y2K)


I've had many joyful NYE's since (and prior), but I find myself reflecting on these for three reasons this afternoon.


1.  Having children changes EVERYTHING about sleep! For me, it sucked the joy out of staying up until midnight!! Joy is being tucked in by 10 🤣


2.  Seriously, Y2K was 20 years ago? Here we are 20 years later and more worried about the state of the world than I ever imagined we could be. We have SO much work to do!


3.  I am more excited about this NYE than ever-not that I have party plans or particularly want to stay up until midnight.  It's that I've got 2021 plans that I've mapped out and I am excited to run with!! I haven't felt this clear about my goals and ever.


"That time then and once again, I'm bouncing round the room"

(in my head though-cuz my office is too small!)!!!

**side note: they didn't play that 12/31/98 AND here is the recording of the entire 3 set show for your convenience and enjoyment!


First time in my life I’m not just gliding into the New Year with thoughts or dreams about the things I would love to see happen.  


This year is profoundly different!  


  • Dreams that I can actually visualize and map out how to make them happen. 

  • Goals written down with action steps and time frames,  

  • Accountability set up to support my efforts.  

  • Mindset work to motivate me and maintain my momentum. 

  • Badass communities of other goal getters!  (yes, more than one!)


2021 I’m coming for you!! 

Anyone else all in? 

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