I hear from many parents that they’ve been told their child has executive functioning challenges, but they aren’t really clear what that really means.
Either way, parents will typically follow up with some time on Google seeking answers. 'Cause that's where we all usually end up!
- time management
- emotional regulation
Take a deep breath
Pit of doom in my belly.
Shoulders fold inward as my neck and back roll down into hunched over mode.
It all happens in a matter of seconds….and feels like time is standing still.
Every cell in my body deflates, my breath is shallow, and my head pounds as I clench my jaw.
In slow motion I turn the phone to look at the number.
Huge sigh of relief…
Panic sets further in as I answer…
I spent years waiting, day in and day out, for “the other shoe to drop.” *
*I just learned where this expression comes from! It dates back to the late 19th and early 20th century in New York City. In the tenement buildings the floors were so thin and you could hear your upstairs neighbor take off their shoe and drop it. Then repeat the action. It became shorthand for waiting for something that was inevitably coming.
Pains me to write this and recall the fear and constriction in my body even though it’s been over a year since I’ve responded to my phone ringing in this way.
Grateful to have cultivated the resilience and mindset to shift myself from this detrimental pattern.
For me, back then, it was the school calling or the police. Though it was really the constant state of fear I was stuck in that was the challenge.
I was freed up by releasing the paralysis of fear, opening my window of tolerance, and accepting that stressful calls come, AND that I don’t need to be suffocated by the grip of waiting for them to arrive.
I hear from many of you that are exhausted...caught up in this cycle of fear.
Mama, you are the only one that can make it stop.
You and your reaction/response are the only control you have.
You can break the pattern.
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Heart pounding, hands sweaty, jaw tension...it all kicked in whenever I would recall a specific memory of a traumatic event with my child.
And that memory would sometimes be triggered at the most inopportune moments.
Gaining freedom from this intense reaction changed my path.
It was the defining moment of realizing I needed to bring this work to others and share one of the best tools I have in my toolbox.
Our memories are more than just images, they are made up of thoughts, feelings, and body (and other) sensations.
We hold onto them for the purpose of learning and survival. Yet, we don’t need them to have a stronghold on us.
Our sense of smell is the only inroad to the limbic system where we store our memories and we are able to tap into it with the support of essential oils and reconsolidate the way the memories are stored.
Gently going through the steps of an Aroma Freedom session gifted me the ability to now recall the memory without the negativity or miserable physical responses.
It's opened up the doors for me to create new pathways for more positive perspectives and directions related to the memory.
How could I not learn how to help others be free!?
And support them in creating goals and intentions for their future!
60 seconds...the most dynamic simple process can be done in 60 seconds to flip the switch on that part of your brain that sends you into “fight, flight or freeze”
How helpful would that be for you or your teens!!?
Mamas, we need tools in our tool boxes!
Tools we can use on the spot and tools to help clear past messes and pave the way for future possibilities.
Let’s chat about how I can support you. I offer free 15 minute consults so you can ask all the questions!
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New Years Eve 1998-1999 was a highlight for me- Phish show with friends in the Ticketmaster box at Madison Square Garden
NYE 1999-2000 with an almost 2 month old...nursing and diapers and desperately trying to stay up until midnight to see if the world would blow up (Y2K)
I've had many joyful NYE's since (and prior), but I find myself reflecting on these for three reasons this afternoon.
1. Having children changes EVERYTHING about sleep! For me, it sucked the joy out of staying up until midnight!! Joy is being tucked in by 10 🤣
2. Seriously, Y2K was 20 years ago? Here we are 20 years later and more worried about the state of the world than I ever imagined we could be. We have SO much work to do!
3. I am more excited about this NYE than ever-not that I have party plans or particularly want to stay up until midnight. It's that I've got 2021 plans that I've mapped out and I am excited to run with!! I haven't felt this clear about my goals and actions...like ever.
"That time then and once again, I'm bouncing round the room"
(in my head though-cuz my office is too small!)!!!
**side note: they didn't play that 12/31/98 AND here is the recording of the entire 3 set show for your convenience and enjoyment!
First time in my life I’m not just gliding into the New Year with thoughts or dreams about the things I would love to see happen.
This year is profoundly different!
Dreams that I can actually visualize and map out how to make them happen.
Goals written down with action steps and time frames,
Accountability set up to support my efforts.
Mindset work to motivate me and maintain my momentum.
Badass communities of other goal getters! (yes, more than one!)
2021 I’m coming for you!!
Anyone else all in?