Oola! What is it?

Oola! What is it?
Do you know that feeling when you wash up for bed, get cozy in your pajamas and curl up into bed? It's that sweet spot at the end of a long day. 
 
Well, what if every aspect of your life had moments similar to that? What if you loved your work, your finances were handled, your family life was blissful, and you had time for great friendships, amazingly good fun, radiant health, and a strong faith connection to whatever you believe, too? Wouldn’t that be a goal worth working towards diligently until you got there?
 
Years ago, I was introduced to a book and a movement, a lifestyle called “Oola” that made me really look at our modern-day culture that says we should do more, be more and buy more. Oola is different.  It's now a global phenomenon with over a million followers actively creating their best lives. 
 
Short for Ooh-la-la, Oola is that feeling you get when life just works. You’re happy, growing, and looking forward to what the world has in store for you.  

It’s the feeling you get when you’ve landed that better job, grown a bigger business, or watched your kids succeed at something they’re passionate about. It’s what you tell yourself when you’ve saved your first $1,000, or paid off the last of your debts. It’s the confidence you feel —or the sense of wonder and enchantment with your life.
 
Working through the Oola steps helped me reclaim my life after some very challenging years. So when an opportunity appeared to coach others on this proven formula, I jumped at the possibilities. 

Now I have partnered with them on an initiative to have a positive impact on 1 billion lives over the next 7 years with the Oola framework! It isn't available to the public until 7/7/2021, but I have early access to the opportunity to share an amazing tool with the world!  It's super cool to be involved this early in such an amazing mission. 

If you would like to know more...reach out and we can chat! I am so excited to connect with more heart-centered service-oriented friends to join hands on this journey. 
 
If you want to calm life’s insanity, eliminate the drama and bring more balance, less stress, and greater purpose to your life, connect with me to talk about my 12 weeks- Oola Life Balance private coaching program, where we’ll work together on your finances, fitness, family, field (career), faith, friends and fun—then set some goals to transform your life for good. 

Live differently. Get your Oola life. 



3 Little Known Ways To Engage in Self-Care Without Spending $

3 Little Known Ways To Engage in Self-Care Without Spending $
I know, I know...when you hear "self-care" you probably roll your eyes and think, "I don't have the time" and/or "I don't have the money" or some other negative thought. 

You don't need to spend money to love yourself!! 

Look, I am the first to admit that I love a mani/pedi with a friend, or hitting the day spa for a massage or facial (or both!!).  I've gone on retreats and plenty of homemade face masks or salt scrubs.  

I'm the epsom salt bath goddess (which is an inexpensive luxury) and love soaking until my fingers and toes shrivel up! 

Self care is SO much more than this.  It's getting good sleep, staying hydrated, moving your body, and nourishing your body.  It's doing the simple tasks that we need for survival. 

And yes, there are times as mamas that we struggle to do the simple tasks! 
 
Here are three more simple (but not easy!) things you can do that don't cost anything!! 

  • Say "NO" - it is a complete sentence-NO need to provide an explanation with it!
    • to people 
    • to projects
    • to anything that doesn't serve you! 
  • Set boundaries!
    • with yourself...such as limiting your work hours
    • with others-you get to choose what you receive from them
  • No people pleasing!!
    • I see you! As a recovering people pleaser, I get it! You are not responsible for other people's happiness! 
That's it...don't you feel better already!! And it didn't cost a penny!!

As I said, simple, not easy.  Takes practice and consistent implementation.  I am working on them myself! 

If you want to indulge in more self care... join us over at resilientAF midlife mamas on Facebook, home of the FREE 90 Days to Reclaim Your Life (so that you can reclaim your creativity and passion!) Click here to come hang! 



Mental Health Over Academics...Understanding Why

I'm going to let the video do it's thing this week...so grab a cup of something yummy and hit play.  Then share it with someone else 💜





How does fear affect our health?

How does fear affect our health?

Experiencing fear is a healthy survival mechanism that is fundamental to our existence...living in fear is unhealthy.


Our bodies hold onto that fear and has negative effects on our physically wellness (ie: crippling our immune systems, screwing with our sleep, eating disorders, muscular pain, etc.) and emotional wellness (ie: dissociation, anxiety, phobias, mood swings, obsessive compulsive disorder, etc.)


And to my midlife mamas...fear raises our cortisol levels and messes with our hormones and we certainly don’t need anything else messing with our hormones! 


Fear puts us in fight, flight freeze mode and shuts down our pre-frontal cortex which makes it difficult for us to engage in executive functioning! 


Are ya hearing all the chatter about not being able to focus, zoning out, stress eating, stress baking, drinking, scrolling endlessly on social media? 


So let’s talk straight about fear…


Zig Ziglar said FEAR had 2 meanings:  Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise


Running from our lives is an unhealthy coping mechanism. 


Believe me, I tried, years of emotionally eating my fears instead of facing them has added up! 


I now choose  to be resilientAF and rise to face my fears.  


I get it.  This shit is hard.   Facing fear head on is intense. 


Choices in life are sometimes gut wrenching.  


Parenting taught me much of what I know about fear- we as parents hold fears for our children’s safety and well being.


The fears in my head were often way worse than the realities and when we hit the deepest darkest moments and real life scary shit was happening- the fear was overpowered by love- a love so intense that fear couldn’t continue to paralyze me. 


I now fully realize  “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”  (Franklin D. Roosevelt)


Action absorbs anxiety and fear- we free ourselves up to live more fully and present to love and gratitude.  Self care is love in action. 


Radical Self Care that I turn to when fear is present:  

  • workout -especially with the boxing gloves on!
  • take a walk, bonus points if the sun is shining
  • dance! sing!
  • gratitude journaling
  • Aroma Freedom session
  • connection with loved ones
  • Kava Stress Relief tea
  • Stress Away and Peace & Calming essential oil blends
  • nurturing whole foods
  • hugs...lots of hugs

Want to bump up your self care game? Come hang with a bunch of resilientAF midlife mamas? You are not alone! We get it!  










3 transformational lessons learned from the gym...probably not what you think!

Sadly, today my gym shut down their business.


Fortunately, the owners/coaches brilliantly pivoted and went remote, which is awesome....yet the community as we knew it is over.

My heart is so freakin’ heavy.

I sheepishly walked in there January 2018 -
DESPERATE- I had spent much of 2017 using a cane and managing pain. I needed to be healthier.

The transformation I experienced was priceless.

First of all...I actually
SHOWED UP and to be honest, I walked in terrified EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

And every day I walked out to my car a
WARRIOR!

For the first time I felt physically and emotionally safe in a gym setting. All shapes and sizes were welcome and present. Modifications and scaling was available for anyone at any level of fitness.

Oh how I will miss the community!!

We had daily celebrations of achievement and badassery...support and compassion for life inside and outside the physical four walls of the gym.

2018-2020 were some of the most emotionally difficult years of my life and being present with the community and pushing myself physically supported me in ways I never could have imagined.



3 transformational lessons I learned from the gym: 

1.  It was never about my weight. People would compliment me on my weight loss and how great I looked...and honestly, it made me cringe. 


2. I would smile and share how amazing I FELT. It was always about feeling better in my body, being able to move without pain, to get on and off the floor, to climb stairs without my arms, and to live my best life.

3. I wanted to be seen for the way I was showing up for myself, for that was where the real loss was. The LOSS OF GUILT for putting myself first!

In 2019 when things in my life took some painful twists and turns I struggled to stick with my radical self care. I had pain again and became acutely aware of what a shamp I was at holding my emotions in my body.

Fortunately in the last 6 months I have learned a technique to release them….and am now getting certified in it so I can help others!

This community will always be in my heart, the coaches will always be in my head, and I will continue to move my body, to push myself past the point of my mental comfort zone, to step outside myself and find my inner warrior.

 

She is there and she is resilientAF!  

Check out
Project Wellness...remote training from two amazing coaches!!


and join other resilientAF midlife mamas on Facebook in our free group!! 





 
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